Hey Peeps! This weeks' post is short and sweet - coming to you from Ixtapa-Zihuatanejo, Mexico where I'm on vacation with my sweetie! Blogging from the beach . . . doesn't really get much better than this. :)
A favorite exercise that I give clients is to have them choose a theme song - something that makes them feel strong, unstoppable, badass - invincible! When they hear that music it's as if nothing can stop them . . . which given that they've chosen to work with a life-coach for one reason or another, is always a good thing.
Here are some examples of theme songs I've chosen for myself over the years. Yep - you can pick a new one as often as you please - it is your life after all!
Freedom ('90) - George Michael
Freedom - Allen Stone
(is there a theme here?)
Onto Something Good - Ashley Monroe
Something's Coming - Barbara Streisand
Follow Your Arrow - Kacey Musgraves
Fly - Maddy & Tae
Break Free - Ariana Grande
Beautiful Day - U2
Adventure of a Lifetime - Coldplay
Beauty in the World - Macy Gray
(Keep in mind that some of these videos are super random - and for me it's all about the music & lyrics, not the visuals!)
So my question for you today is . . . What's Your Theme Song? I'd love to know if you already have one, or if this is a new exercise for you, and what your song is! Send me a note or leave a message in the comments ...
Love and Light,
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If you come here regularly, you'll know that a couple of weeks ago I did a mini "Book Review" of five self-help books that have had a positive impact on me in the last year. (No? Go read it here.)
I may or may not have mentioned in that post that I actually have a really hard time finishing self-help books. I know, I know! It's so bizarre given what I do for a living (Life Coach), but as a lifelong resister to being told what to do, I sometimes end up putting books of that particular genre down before I'm done.
I did finish all of the ones I recommended (Mostly. I think? Lol!) - most recently Thank and Grow Rich by Pam Grout. I have been all about her book the last couple weeks and thought it was worth sharing more about how a daily gratitude practice has totally shifted my attitude and has me paying attention to all the good things that are coming my way. Because really when you start paying attention and getting on what Grout calls the "Divine Buzz" frequency of gratitude? Life is abundant people. Really abundant!
Who knows why we pick up certain books - this one in particular was recommended to me by my coach when I presented to her an issue I was having regarding my thoughts around money. I'm pretty clear on the manifesting process, and that it generally works best when there is a free, gracious, "I wonder what would happen if . . .?" energy attached to our desires. And that's all fine and well, but I was finding it ridiculously difficult to find that happy, carefree place when it came to my financial flow. Consider the facts: I'm a single-ish mom, working three+ jobs, hustling to get my life-coaching business up & running - and despite my best efforts to be zen, there are just days when things do not feel easy, breezy, beautiful where my money is concerned. #truth
Which is where this book comes in. It's a quick and funny read (which I'm finding is the key to finishing those pesky self-help books!), and starts with a suggestion for a daily gratitude practice that takes about five minutes tops. That is followed by a series of gratitude exercises (which Grout calls "Party Games!" because no one ever does "exercises" - SO true!), coupled with examples of how those have manifested cool things in real life, both for herself and her readers. Who doesn't love real-life stories??
I've been doing the gratitude practice for the last couple of weeks - and here are some cool results:
The bottom line is that I feel better globally (about money and life in general . . .) and know that I'll keep up my daily practice even after 30 days are up . . . I am loving the fairy dust that Gratitude is sprinkling in my life - it's Magic!
Do you find yourself doing great in some areas of your life, but struggling in others? Perhaps a daily gratitude practice might help shift things just enough to start moving more easily all around. I recommend starting with Thank and Grow Rich, and if you want to build on what you learn there - I'm happy to help guide you with some Life Coaching!
Love and Light,
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These last few weeks I've been thinking a lot about personal growth and change (you know, as a Life Coach does . . .), and particularly "The Change Cycle". If you need a refresher course, you can pop over to Martha Beck's site to read more here.
More specifically what I've been pondering is Square Two of the Change Cycle - where we find ourselves post-catalytic event, post-cocooning and starting to envision what our new life might look like. We change our wardrobe, we change our hair, we redecorate our living spaces . . . "reordering our outer situation to reflect our inner rebirth". <--- I just love that description so much!! I look back on the times in my life when I've made big changes to my hair (no really!), and sure enough, I was coming out of the fog of some serious life changing event. See Exhibit A below . . . WILD!
Yep - I used to be BLONDE!! In fact, there were times in that blonde to brunette era that I didn't even recognize myself. Which was fine I think - moving from a version of me that didn't work into a better situation where I felt more like myself . . . it's bound to happen.
But what happens when you start to feel disconnected from your friends and family, and they don't recognize you any more either . . . THEN what?
Martha Beck has an analogy for this too . . . it's called the "Empty Elevator Syndrome" - which she discusses in her book "Steering by Starlight".
"When you dissolve false beliefs that once held you prisoner, people around you can't stay connected with both the New You and their old patterns of behavior. Without meaning for it to happen, you may find that many of your relationships will simultaneously fall away, leaving a space for new loved ones you haven't yet encountered. The elevator is going up a level. For a little while, you have to ride it alone, or nearly so."
Oh yes - it's true. Sometimes working through times of profound change can alienate relationships you've had your whole life!
Elizabeth Gilbert also brought this up in a FaceBook post several years ago, where she discussed "Tribal Shaming". The gist of tribal shaming is similar to the Empty Elevator idea, but it goes much, much deeper - really to the roots of our families of origin - our original tribe where we follow certain rules that are not meant to be broken. Things as simple as "Everyone in our family goes into business", or "We are all dysfunctional alcoholics" - which is all fine and dandy unless you want to do something different. What if you're an artist? Or someone who wants to lead a sober & functional life? It is tricky for sure - and can be painful if you're not aware of the dynamics as they are happening. The post is long and so good . . . go read the whole thing here. (because really who am I to paraphrase Elizabeth Gilbert? Just go take a few minutes of your day to read - you won't regret it!)
So all of this is to ask . . . how are you handling big life changes these days? Are you riding solo on your elevator? Or are some of your tribe keeping you company - supporting you on your journey of personal development and new-you-ness? I'd love to know more - send me a note or leave a comment below!
As for me? I have an appointment next week to get my hair done. Change . . . it's a good thing!
Love and Light,
After I made that graphic I thought "Wow - it kind of looks like I'm doing a review on MY BOOK!" Not today folks. While there may be a book waiting to be written somewhere in my head/heart - I'm not there quite yet. Sorry about that!
Instead what I'm sharing with you today is a list of favorite books I've read over the last year - while I was mostly unemployed and growing my Life Coaching business . . . I hope you'll enjoy! (Oh and this is where I get to remind you I'm an Amazon Affiliate ---> which is there in the sidebar too, and that if you click through and purchase - I might make a few pennies. Thanks!)
1. Year of Yes - Shonda Rhimes
The Sub-Heading of this book reads, "How to Dance it Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person", and chronicles one year in the life of Shonda Rhimes (writer of Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice & Scandal) as she stops saying NO to everything, and starts living a life of YES. I felt so inspired after reading this book . . . love love loved it! Go Get it!
2. The Big Leap - Gay Hendricks
So here's a little secret - I told all my Life Coaching clients that they should read this book . . . before I read it. Oops! And then last Fall I decided to take the "Big Leap" myself and jumped in with both feet. And guess what? I still highly recommend it (ha!) - and particularly love the way Hendricks describes our different zones (Incompetence, Competence, Excellence, and Genius), and what can happen when we focus our energies on doing only what is in our Zone of Genius. So Good!
3. Thank and Grow Rich - Pam Grout
This was recommended to me by MY Life Coach (Yes it's true, even Coaches need their own Coach!), as a way to navigate what seemed to be a stumbling block around attaching some panicky energy to good financial flow - or lack thereof. So far I am loving Pam Grout's lighthearted approach and I've already started being more grateful about everything, even though I haven't started implementing the exercises yet. Highly Recommend.
4. The Art of Non-Conformity - Chris Guillebeau
Here's what I loved most about this book: Even though I'm not trying to start a non-profit to bring clean drinking water to remote parts of Africa, or quite my job to be a travel blogger . . . the big take-away for me is that my life and the way I choose to make money doesn't have to look a certain way. If you're looking to do something different (i.e. make a living with multiple streams of income!), give this book a read - I think you'll like it!
5. The Crossroads of Should & Must - Elle Luna
As a creative person (I'm a photographer!), this is another book that I suggest all of my clients pick up. It's a quick read sprinkled with brightly colored graphics and has a great message about pursuing work that you love, whether you identify as being creative or not. Two Thumbs Up!
Of course I bought more than five books in the last year - these are just the ones that I found to be really insightful and helpful on my journey. Aaaannnd - here's a look at what's "on deck":
Raise Your Vibration: 111 Practices to Increase Your Spiritual Connection - Kyle Gray
Overcoming Underearning - Barbara Stanny
Zero Limits: The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace and More
Write it Down, Make it Happen - Henriette Anne Klauser
Writing Down Your Soul - Janet Conner
Yes there are more . . . and I'll save them for another day!
If you have a chance to read any of these titles (or if you already have!), I'd love to know what you think . . . leave a comment or send me note!
Love and Light,
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