Given the crazy turns my life has taken over the last nine months, I've been reflecting on one of my old ways of thinking . . . that things had to look a certain way.
A favorite example of this type of mindset was back in college when I had this idea about what my life would look like after I graduated. I had painted a fantasy future in my head that I would have a particular kind of really cool job, that I would be swept off my feet by Prince Charming on a White Horse, and we would get married and live in a house with a white picket fence, etc. etc. Guess what? NONE of it happened the way I envisioned! Well, that's not quite true. I DID get A job, I DID meet A guy, and I did get married & we bought A house. It just wasn't THE job, THE guy, or THE house I thought it would be. Imagine that!
When I lost my job in January one of the biggest panic triggers was that I didn't have a PLAN.
I did know a couple of things though:
1. I was going to pursue my dream of becoming a Life Coach.
2. I was never going to work 40 hours a week for someone else again.
And? I had NO IDEA how that was going to look. Oh sure, I had some ideas about how I would like it to be, but there can be a rather giant gap between what we envision and well . . . reality. (see above.) But while there have been some (many?) emotional meltdowns along the way, I am happy to say that even in the beginning I could appreciate the beauty in the not-knowing, and have relied on faith and trust that things would work out somehow, someway. (Shout-out to my boyfriend who is generally the voice of reason in moments when I lose sight of my dreams and think it's all going to go to shit. Hey - I'm human.)
Combining that Faith + Trust with a good dose of Hustle + Knowing My Strengths, mixed with a little Guerilla Marketing via WordSwag/Instagram/FB/Pinterest + walking dogs - is how I've landed where I am today . . . almost* making a living by creating multiple streams of income (which I know I've mentioned here before).
It all continues to surprise me on a daily basis! Guess what? "It" doesn't have to look a certain way.
Are you feeling stuck in "Certain Way" thinking? How would you show up in life if you were able to do things differently than what society/friends/family say you should? Could you relieve yourself of some stress and anxiety if you threw caution to the wind and did things your way?
I'd love to hear your thoughts, and am here to say if I can do it, so can YOU!
Love and Light,
* I foresee that I'll have this multiple-streams of income thing sorted out in the next few months - and in an effort to be totally transparent, I have to say it does take some TIME. :)
p.s. Some books which have helped along this wild and crazy ride are:
I have spent the last four days doing THE HARDEST thing I've ever done as a Mom . . . dropping my kid off in rural Colorado to play college baseball.
In the weeks before we left, it seemed the Universe knew what was coming and I found myself in the midst of many other Mom's & Coaches who were writing about the same thing. "How Helpful!" I thought, "Just what I need, right when I need it!". Well I am here to tell you that of all the things I read, only one stuck with me:
Which was: It won't go as you planned.
With that in mind I tried to make this trip with a zero-expectations policy. Which is great when you might have expected certain things, and let them go. But when things happen that you didn't expect in a million years? It's downright brutal.
Long story short . . . as soon as we got there he wanted to come home. <--- Yah - I didn't expect THAT!
So after talking (and crying) about lots of different scenarios and how things might look if that happened - I finally said, "Let's just make it through tomorrow," and sent him back to bed. Because really? I had no idea what else to say.
We DID make it through the next day, with only a few more tears.
We went to Wal-Mart and shopped for all the dorm things.
I bought him a metallic red Razor Scooter so he can get to class in style!
He made two new really nice baseball player friends.
His roommate is a gem.
He met with some of his professors who he'll study with to get his pre-Physical Therapy degree - who are apparently lovely in that classic midwest fashion.
And then I ended up leaving a day early to stay with a friend near Denver the last night. <-- Didn't expect that either! Leaving him made my mama heart hurt in ways I totally wasn't prepared for, and it was totally necessary.
The truth is that no matter how much I wanted a guide on "How to Take Your Kid To College" - there can't be that handbook because it will be different for every kid and every parent and every situation.
It was HARD (for both of us!), and yet we figured it out with some measure of grace - for which I will be eternally grateful.
Are there things in your life that you are avoiding because they feel too hard?
Here's what I know:
1. You can do it.
2. It won't go as you planned.
3. You'll come out the other side not only surviving, but thriving.
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One last thing: To all the mamas who are taking their kids to college in the next few weeks . . . I salute you.
Love and Light,
p.s. The graphic above is from my friend Vikki Spencer - aka The Mom Whisperer - who was one of my biggest cheerleaders this week. She is amazing and has a BOOK called "Momifesto - A Manifesto of 9 Practices for Phenomenal Moms" which I highly recommend!
At the end of the school year I was on my way across town to the high school baseball banquet. I had lost 15 pounds over the previous few months, was wearing some super cute jeans (that I hadn't been able to squeeze into for the last year and a 1/2), and was having a great hair day. I was at a stop light putting on some lip gloss when I had the following thought: "I feel like a MILLION BUCKS!" !!!! And the thought that came immediately after that was "If I can feel it? I can have it!" Not gonna lie, it was a pivotal moment - one that I think I'll remember for a long time!
So I keep on keeping on, hustling in the healthiest way I can (see last weeks' post!) and have started paying closer attention to the things that make me feel good. From the food I eat, to how often I move my body, to the self-care rituals that I've been putting aside because I tell myself I'm on a budget. I've decided that there are some things I'm not willing to give up, because they hold a special place in my "million bucks" core desired feeling. And what this means is that I am going to treat myself to a few key things on a regular basis!
My list of small indulgences includes:
And bizarrely, I think when I got to that place of knowing what I could let go of (like washing my car all the time!), and what was really important to me (even if it seemed trivial), the universe threw a few super fun bonuses my way! I have a girlfriend who is an RN and studying to be an aesthetician - so I've been getting some awesome services from her at a lovely discount, and I couldn't be more pleased. (If you're in the Seattle area and are interested in new-age facials plus lots of other cool stuff . . . look her up here!)
What are the things that make you feel good? Or maybe even make you feel super fantastic? Do you allow yourself to indulge regularly or just time-to-time? I am a firm believer that when I feel good, I can manifest the life I've always dreamed of - one filled with ease, joy, magic . . . and maybe even a million bucks!
Love and Light,
Happy Sunday Lovelies!
Many of you know that in January of this year I was laid off from my job as a Medical Software Trainer, and passed my Life Coaching Certification Exam two days later! Since then I have been collecting unemployment and creating multiple-streams of income that will someday patchwork quilt into something that I'll be able to make a living on. And you know what? It's actually working!
Let me tell you what has been most gratifying about my current "work" situation:
And there are a few things that aren't so great about being self-employed, especially at this stage of the game. I'm not even going to make a list because it's really just ONE THING . . . and that is because the fire-under-my-ass is hot! hot! hot!, sometimes (most times?), I don't know when to stop HUSTLING. Oof! Oh yes, being able to work from home is awesome, but when I'm working on a weekend night until 10:00 pm on some crazy-ass idea that I think will be my next big thing? It's really not that great.
So in an effort to get some balance and reward myself for all the hustling, I am treating myself to an art retreat this weekend in Portland. Because we all need to go to Magical Radical Art Camp, right? I'll post some pictures next weekend, but in the meantime I am here with today's prompt which is:
Are you hustling to the point of exhaustion? When you take a break are you really taking a break? Or just hustling more on things that you don't consider "work"? (like Laundry and other household chores.). Today I'm encouraging you to reallllyy take a break. Let go of all the things you think you "should" be doing, and do something you love. Read a book. Make your favorite snack. Go for a photo-walk. Do a puzzle. Visit with a friend. Hang out selflessly with your kids. Whatever makes your soul happy - do THAT today. Because you're worth it.
Love and Light,
Meet me here on Saturdays for some weekly vibes - honoring the week that has past, and clearing the way for what's new. Gather your journal and favorite pen, along with a hot cup of coffee/tea/chai - and settle in for 30 minutes dedicated to YOU.
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