It occurred to me yesterday that perhaps I should write a Mothers Day post this weekend ... but that's not what's top of mind at the moment so maybe next week.
Today instead I'm going to share a simple tool with you that was gifted to me years ago by my friend Maya - a new way to help make decisions & chart your life on the right course!
To be clear - my favorite tool in this category is still The Body Compass. (Because your body will never lie to you!). But every now & then my intellectual self needs its own tool - which is where this one comes in. Sadly it doesn't have a fancy name - so I'm just going to call it "The 8+ Guideline".
It goes something like this:
In every part of your life (work, relationships, hobbies, etc.) the things you choose should, on a scale of 1-10 always be an 8 or above!
Conceptually it's ridiculously simple, I know. But there is something about assigning a number to the things that are important to me that feels so liberating!
As in "Oh I have Bunco tonight. On a scale of 1-10 is that an 8+? Nope! Not going."
I think my favorite story of putting the 8+ Guideline into practice was back when I was doing online dating. I had spoken to a guy on the phone & despite my better judgement had agreed to have dinner with him the next week . . . & then promptly regretted it. So I sent him a message through the dating site letting him know that I had changed my mind. Well apparently he didn't get it, so the day before we were supposed to go out he texted me to see where we were going. Ummm no dude. So I sent him the email again with the kind message that I was choosing something else. And then he asked me why?
At this point part of me felt like enough was enough. But at the same time I thought I might be able to share with him this amazing life tool . . . so I replied and outlined the 8+ guideline for him, and said, "Unfortunately dinner with you was not going to be an 8+, so I'm gracefully bowing out."
I think it goes without saying that he did not appreciate my efforts . . . but it makes for a great story. And that's what online dating is all about right? (Otherwise it just wouldn't be worth all the crazy. But that is a post for another day!)
If you think about your life by the numbers . . . are you choosing things that are above an 8? Are there areas of 8- that might need some pruning? The next time you're on the fence about attending an event, choosing new clothes, or considering a big life change . . . ask yourself: "Is it an 8 or above?" I think you'll find the results rather magical!
Love and Light,
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