I've been thinking a lot about contraction and expansion in the last week, and how those feelings show up in my life. From a very fundamental standpoint, simply breathing is an example of how we expand and contract from moment to moment. On a bigger level - decision making, setting priorities, and periods of big personal growth are other places where we see this in action.
My current experience is that my long-time boyfriend is moving in with me - which is causing some short-term discomfort (contraction), even though I know it is going to bring long-term ease. (expansion baby!) We have a lot of combined stuff (contract!), and we're finding a place for all of it . . . (expand!). We're getting some cleaning help - which is AWESOME. Oh but my house is so gross, I can't let anyone see it this way (contract!), . . . errrrm - time to get over that! (expand!). And these are just a few examples - it's been quite the roller-coaster!
As part of my upcoming trip to Mexico, I've been participating in Courtney Pinkerton's beta Flourish Group Coaching program which has been so amazing. And imagine my surprise when she started talking about this exact topic during our group coaching call this week! (I don't believe in surprises actually - it's just The Universe showing up in mysterious ways . . .) At any rate, this is what she had to say about Expansion and Contraction:
"When we are pointed in a direction that is aligned with our true purpose, the body feels expansive and light. When we are not being true to our essential self - or going toward our North Star as Martha Beck likes to refer to it - our bodies contract."
She also makes sure to point out that during periods of big growth, we can be fooled into thinking we are doing the wrong thing because we might feel uncomfortable - but that does not necessarily mean we are off-course!
Then she brought up having a meditation practice to navigate these contrasting body feelings. Argh! (Contract!) I have long told myself that "I'm bad a meditating" because I can't actually ever quiet my mind. Seriously - I'm one of those people who can sit for a few minutes, and then it's off to "What's for dinner", and "I have to do the laundry!". And since I've never actually made it past the first few minutes - I don't think I can actually say that I'm BAD at it . . . I just haven't really given it a chance. So I am going to try it again! I've bought a book that Courtney recommended, and am open to giving this another chance given how many good things I've heard about it. (Expand!) I'm actually really excited. <--- and that my friends is nothing short of a miracle!
Expansion and Contraction is a constant phenomena, and as I dip my toe slowly into learning more about meditation, I hope that I can be more open and expansive in my days, receiving all that life has to give.
How do you manage feeling expansive or contracted? Do you have a daily practice of yoga, meditation, or something else? I'd love to hear about it - send me a note or leave me a comment.
Love and Light,
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