You can choose Courage
or you can choose Comfort,
but you cannot choose both.
- Brené Brown
This week I had the opportunity to practice courage on multiple occasions - and was reminded of how not easy or comfortable it is sometimes!
In the first scenario, I found myself asking for help - and also asking myself why (Why? WHY?!) it is so hard to ask for help! A few answers that bubbled up were:
All of those things are pretty silly - and can be countered with:
Thankfully my request for help went smoothly - and as a result I think I've put together the team for my retreat in Mexico next Spring. Hooray!
The other courage-filled moment was when I shared some of my crazy dark gremlin thoughts with my other half. For reference - these are the kind of thoughts that when you say them out loud it would be completely acceptable for the person you're talking to to run for the hills. No exaggeration.
And here's the thing: Once I said them out loud - they lost a lot of their power. It was as if they were big monsters in the darkness of my head, but once I shed some light on them (by voicing how scary they were), they shriveled into dust-bunnies. It was WILD. (& no they're not completely gone, but I've gained some serious perspective which is always a good thing!).
Truth be told I've been a little off my game the last several weeks - which landed me in this spot where I had to grab courage by the hand and jump into both of these conversations. Which is not my preference.
Under normal circumstances my approach is more along the lines of: Break the process into itty-bitty steps, and go at it slowly. Martha Beck refers to this process as Turtle Steps, and I've found it to be extremely helpful. The basic framework is to take the task at hand and break it into smaller steps, then split those into several even-smaller steps, and then do it again. And then do ONE of those things. And then do ONE more. Breaking a scary thing into bite-size pieces makes it much more palatable and holds a greater rate of success!
What I also know for certain is that Courage is a muscle, and the more you exercise it - the stronger & easier it gets.
Do you have any tips & tricks for overcoming fears & being courageous? What kinds of experiences can you share where you've been afraid to do something and had the courage to go for it anyway? If you've got something brewing that feels big & scary - try using Turtle Steps, and let me know how it works!
Love & Light,
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