My boyfriend was out of town this week for a work gig, in Calgary! (And if you're wondering why I didn't go with him or why my timing of having to get a J-O-B is so crummy? So am I folks . . . So am I!) These days he doesn't travel much, but about a year ago he was out of town every other week - which
s-u-c-k-e-d. And here's something I noticed about the last five days: I REALLY missed him!
Of course it's natural to miss your sweetie when they are gone - but historically I would only really feel that heart-pang maybe once a week or every other trip when he was away. And when I tried to explain this to him at some point it sounded like this: "I've got a lot going on Babe . . . I'm Busy!" <--- Let me tell you . . . that "Busy-ness"? It's a THING. And this week after noticing those feelings bubbling up a lot more (I've really been missing my kiddo who is far away at college too!), I have a few things to say about it.
Whether you want to admit it or not, being "Busy" is a convenient way to numb. Just like drugs and alcohol - it keeps us from FEELING. But here's the thing: where drugs and alcohol are not always socially acceptable? Being Busy IS.
I'd even go as far as to say it's not only acceptable but our society actually tells us it's a good thing. Think of all the people you know who are feeling accomplished because they are busy, busy, busy, go, go, go, collapse! Do it all again the next day. It's an epidemic. Bleh.
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Last week my friend Ariane posted something on her Facebook page about women getting Botox in their armpits . . . so they wouldn't SWEAT. ** To be clear, there are several non-cosmetic uses of Botox that include treatment of migraines and yes also for people who suffer from excessive perspiration - both of which are pretty much a godsend for anyone in those demographics. I believe the article being referenced was relating to neither of the above and could be squarely filed under "convenience". ** At any rate, the comments that ensued were interesting, but the one that stood out to me the most was the question, "If you don't sweat, where to all those toxins go?" <--- RIGHT? For sole-ly cosmetic purposes it sounds like a terrible idea to me, but I'm not a very sweaty person . . . so I won't judge. Onward!
Here's the deal people: Busy-ness is like Botox to Your Soul (click to tweet)
It's no joke! In my experience having an over-scheduled life (work, kids, relationships, family, etc.!) creates a really convenient way to not have to deal with feelings that make us uncomfortable. But sadly it also keeps us from feeling the good stuff too . . . and who wants THAT? Not a lot of positive can come from keeping all your feelings trapped inside. Don't Botox your soul people!
Are you overwhelmed with an over-committed schedule? Consistently working more than 50 hours a week? Feel so busy that you routinely forget to drink water or go to the bathroom? Take a moment this morning to think about one thing you can do this week that would change that pattern. Remember - the difference between water that isn't boiling and water that is . . . is only two degrees. Small Change - Big Impact! I'd love to hear your thoughts and successes (& failures! <--- that means your trying!) - send me a note or leave a comment below.
Love and Light,
Meet me here on Saturdays for some weekly vibes - honoring the week that has past, and clearing the way for what's new. Gather your journal and favorite pen, along with a hot cup of coffee/tea/chai - and settle in for 30 minutes dedicated to YOU.