I have spent the last four days doing THE HARDEST thing I've ever done as a Mom . . . dropping my kid off in rural Colorado to play college baseball.
In the weeks before we left, it seemed the Universe knew what was coming and I found myself in the midst of many other Mom's & Coaches who were writing about the same thing. "How Helpful!" I thought, "Just what I need, right when I need it!". Well I am here to tell you that of all the things I read, only one stuck with me:
Which was: It won't go as you planned.
With that in mind I tried to make this trip with a zero-expectations policy. Which is great when you might have expected certain things, and let them go. But when things happen that you didn't expect in a million years? It's downright brutal.
Long story short . . . as soon as we got there he wanted to come home. <--- Yah - I didn't expect THAT!
So after talking (and crying) about lots of different scenarios and how things might look if that happened - I finally said, "Let's just make it through tomorrow," and sent him back to bed. Because really? I had no idea what else to say.
We DID make it through the next day, with only a few more tears.
We went to Wal-Mart and shopped for all the dorm things.
I bought him a metallic red Razor Scooter so he can get to class in style!
He made two new really nice baseball player friends.
His roommate is a gem.
He met with some of his professors who he'll study with to get his pre-Physical Therapy degree - who are apparently lovely in that classic midwest fashion.
And then I ended up leaving a day early to stay with a friend near Denver the last night. <-- Didn't expect that either! Leaving him made my mama heart hurt in ways I totally wasn't prepared for, and it was totally necessary.
The truth is that no matter how much I wanted a guide on "How to Take Your Kid To College" - there can't be that handbook because it will be different for every kid and every parent and every situation.
It was HARD (for both of us!), and yet we figured it out with some measure of grace - for which I will be eternally grateful.
Are there things in your life that you are avoiding because they feel too hard?
Here's what I know:
1. You can do it.
2. It won't go as you planned.
3. You'll come out the other side not only surviving, but thriving.
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One last thing: To all the mamas who are taking their kids to college in the next few weeks . . . I salute you.
Love and Light,
p.s. The graphic above is from my friend Vikki Spencer - aka The Mom Whisperer - who was one of my biggest cheerleaders this week. She is amazing and has a BOOK called "Momifesto - A Manifesto of 9 Practices for Phenomenal Moms" which I highly recommend!
Meet me here on Saturdays for some weekly vibes - honoring the week that has past, and clearing the way for what's new. Gather your journal and favorite pen, along with a hot cup of coffee/tea/chai - and settle in for 30 minutes dedicated to YOU.