I recently had the good fortune of being able to spend several hours with my friend Elizabeth who was visiting from Rhode Island. The visit itself was rather magical - solely based on the fact that we both just threw it out there to the Universe that if it worked out to see each other that would be great, and if not - c'est la vie . . . and with that non-attachment to the outcome, we DID have a chance to connect and it was fabulous!
One of the many things we talked about that night was Fear . . . and in particular the way Elizabeth Gilbert talks about being fearless in her book Big Magic. She says, "If your goal in life is to become fearless, then I believe you're already on the wrong path, because the only truly fearless people I've ever met were straight-up sociopaths and a few exceptionally reckless three-year-olds - and those aren't good role models for anyone." <--- And for the most part I agree with that!
What was eating at my friends' heart was a piece of beloved art in her studio - that says "Fearless" - and the idea that now she might have to get rid of it.
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I'd like to take a moment here to share something from my last job - where I trained and implemented medical software. My customers were clinics who were either moving from a paper-based chart environment to an electronic one (Electronic Medical Records), or from an existing electronic system that just wasn't working for them any more. In either case, without fail there was always some misconception about how much paper was and wasn't going to be generated from the electronic system. I cannot tell you how many times providers would say "Isn't this supposed to be a paperless system?", to which we would always respond, "Paper-LESS, not Paper-FREE!".
(and now back to our regularly scheduled programming . . .)
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So right there on the sidewalk on the way to dinner I turned to Elizabeth and said, "It's Fear-LESS, not Fear-FREE!" And that my friends really is what it's all about!!
Your exercise for today is to think of something you really want to do that feels unattainable (or crazy!), and the associated fear surrounding just GOING for it! In your journal, break that goal down into smaller pieces, and then break those smaller pieces into further smaller pieces. And then do it again. We call these Turtle Steps! I remember Martha Beck saying once that one of her Turtle Steps was to write an email, but she didn't SEND it until several days later because that just felt too big. That's a great example of what I mean - make those steps small!
Once you've gotten the BIG thing broken down into many SMALL things - try doing the first one, and then the next, and then the next. Pretty soon you'll be on your way! And my guess is that while it might still feel a little scary . . . overall you'll probably be fearing-LESS.
Wishing you a fabulous week. . . I'll see you back here next Sunday for some more meditative goodness!
Love and Light,
Meet me here on Saturdays for some weekly vibes - honoring the week that has past, and clearing the way for what's new. Gather your journal and favorite pen, along with a hot cup of coffee/tea/chai - and settle in for 30 minutes dedicated to YOU.