I like to say I'm a lifelong learner, and boy is that ever true! One of the biggest lessons I seem to keep re-learning, is to just be ME . . . it makes everything so much easier!
A personality trait I've had since I was a child, is that I move through life s-l-o-w-l-y. This pokey approach has been a massive source of frustration to those close to me. I'd even go as far as to say that I may have lost a 20 year friendship over it? There was a point during my divorce where the amount of judgement about how I was crawling through that horrid process was so overwhelming - it seemed like everyone had an opinion about doing things in a more timely fashion. "Just rip off the Band-Aid!" they'd say . . . It got to a point where I started to judge myself about my snails-pace way of life too, and then I felt even worse.
Eventually I stopped resisting what seemed to come most naturally, and accepted the slowness as part of who I was. I quit the inner battle, and asked my friends and family to reserve their judgments about my choices. I decided to see myself as deliberate and thoughtful - putting a positive spin on what I had previously regarded as negative - since in reality this pace had served me (mostly) well throughout my life!
Subsequently things changed and I became able to make decisions and take actions with considerably more speed . . . it was amazing! Here's the truth: You have to accept yourself as you are, before you can change. (click to Tweet)
More recently I had a reminder of all this - trying to embrace my role as a Baseball Mom. For the last several years I've been that Mom who waits until the last minute to try and get a room for the out of town tournaments, has no idea when things are happening, where the games are and at what time - it's all very "fly by the seat of my pants" . . . which doesn't always work very well. So THIS season I decided That's IT! I am going to be SUPER organized, jump on those hotel rooms right when they become available, etc. etc. Well yesterday I got a call from a hotel in Eastern Washington asking me if I wanted to keep my room for the rest of my stay because they were sold out and could give it to someone else. Yep - that's right . . . in my effort to be "organized" I got that room, and then totally forgot about it. And ended up paying $140 for something I didn't want or need. Argh!
I had to laugh though, because the truth is I'm not into those out of town tournaments anyway, and I clearly made other arrangements with the coach for my kid to stay with some teammates. And now that I know this about myself I won't keep trying to be someone I'm NOT.
Sooo . . . today I'd love it if you'd think about parts of your personality that you tell yourself you need to change, and see them as gifts instead of liabilities. Can you put a positive spin on things about yourself that you don't like? Who knows, once you start being true to ALL of you - you might feel less stressed, more joyful, and even save a few dollars.
Love and light,
Meet me here on Saturdays for some weekly vibes - honoring the week that has past, and clearing the way for what's new. Gather your journal and favorite pen, along with a hot cup of coffee/tea/chai - and settle in for 30 minutes dedicated to YOU.