This week I'm fulfilling my baseball mama duties at a tournament in Bend, Oregon so am coming at you with a short & sweet reminder about limiting beliefs! Which is: a) They're just thoughts & b) They're usually not true!
I got a sweet refresher course in this recently when I was telling one of my coach friends that the limiting belief that plagues me most often is:
"I'm a FRAUD."
And she sent me a text that said . . .
Every time you write that I read it as:
"I'm a FROG".
Oh my gosh that made me laugh out loud!! And you know what? It totally took the wind out of that Gremlins' sails. I mean really - now whenever I feel like telling myself "I'm a fraud!" I only hear "I'm a frog!" and it's totally funny.
I'm sharing this with you because fraud thoughts show up in all kinds of shapes & sizes & semantic variations that kind of mean the same thing. You might tell yourself:
I can't do (fill in the blank here) because . . .
"I'm not good enough"
"I don't have the right equipment"
"I didn't go to school"
"People won't believe in me"
Etc. etc. ad naseum.
It's total crap!
And just as proof . . . you may recall my recent post regarding my big FROG-GY thought about not being able to do portrait photography. Well here are some examples of how that is not, in fact true.
So I give you this silly amphibian story to help when those icky thoughts come up . . . so you can just say
"I'm Not A Frog!" Because you're not!
Need some help busting through those limiting beliefs? Send me a note and we can schedule a 30-minute free consultation!
Love and Light,
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A few weeks ago I had the opportunity of a lifetime: to travel to San Miguel de Allende, Mexico to be the photographer for a Life Coaching retreat there.
It was the most amazing four days - where I had the opportunity to participate in the retreat, take pictures all day long (one of my passions!) and power through some of my limiting beliefs surrounding my skills as a photographer. What a GIFT!
However the few months leading up to my departure were pretty interesting in that they were riddled with minor illnesses (at least four . . . two of which required prescriptions), it was verging on ridiculous! As a normally very healthy person it felt kind of wrong to be at the doctors office three times in relatively short span - forking over $166.00 for the last urgent care visit just days before I was set to leave. Argh!
But then a wise soul said something to me about Shaman Sickness & I realized this was a-l-l just the Universe asking me "How bad do you want it?"
And the answer to that my friends is "I Got This!"
As I was winging my way to Mexico I was reading Jen Sincero's "You Are A Badass" on the plane & she was talking about this exact phenomenon - where she had a client whose new dream business had burned down, (they rebuilt!) & another who had been in a car accident & a bunch of other mishaps just as soon as they declared their new thing ... and they persevered! The Universe was asking them too & nothing got in their way.
I thought the timing was rather impeccable as my upper limiting was on full display right at that moment - which looked like: My flight to Mexico out of Houston was delayed due to bad weather, then canceled (after sitting on the runway for two hours), resulting in a lost (& gratefully found!) bag & ending the night in a hotel room with a spectacular upper-limit grand finale of an infected toe ... At which point I just had to laugh!
I gave that baby a hefty dose of Neosporin & bandaged it up with washi tape (as you do) & then had a moment of gratitude for being able to roll with these "obstacles" (with a minimum of crying) & for my boyfriend who handled the hotel arrangements while I searched for my almost-lost-then-found bag.
And gave a nod to The Universe.
How bad do I want it? Watch OUT!
Sometimes facing one hurdle after another can feel like maybe you shouldn't be doing the things that you most want. So how do you tell the difference??
Martha Beck says when you follow your dreams & are on the right path, these obstacles will feel scary in the same way that you might feel when standing on the edge of a clear glacial stream - just about to jump in. It's going to be COLD and REFRESHING, and TOTALLY WORTH IT.
When you're on the wrong path? Well that just feels like slogging through mud.
Are you sensing some upper limits in your life? How do those show up for you? Are they keeping you from your biggest desires and dreams? Is the Universe asking you "How Bad Do You Want It?" If you need some guidance on how to get from Point A (your current reality), to Point B (your ideal life) send me a note . . . I'm taking new clients!
Love and Light,
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It occurred to me yesterday that perhaps I should write a Mothers Day post this weekend ... but that's not what's top of mind at the moment so maybe next week.
Today instead I'm going to share a simple tool with you that was gifted to me years ago by my friend Maya - a new way to help make decisions & chart your life on the right course!
To be clear - my favorite tool in this category is still The Body Compass. (Because your body will never lie to you!). But every now & then my intellectual self needs its own tool - which is where this one comes in. Sadly it doesn't have a fancy name - so I'm just going to call it "The 8+ Guideline".
It goes something like this:
In every part of your life (work, relationships, hobbies, etc.) the things you choose should, on a scale of 1-10 always be an 8 or above!
Conceptually it's ridiculously simple, I know. But there is something about assigning a number to the things that are important to me that feels so liberating!
As in "Oh I have Bunco tonight. On a scale of 1-10 is that an 8+? Nope! Not going."
I think my favorite story of putting the 8+ Guideline into practice was back when I was doing online dating. I had spoken to a guy on the phone & despite my better judgement had agreed to have dinner with him the next week . . . & then promptly regretted it. So I sent him a message through the dating site letting him know that I had changed my mind. Well apparently he didn't get it, so the day before we were supposed to go out he texted me to see where we were going. Ummm no dude. So I sent him the email again with the kind message that I was choosing something else. And then he asked me why?
At this point part of me felt like enough was enough. But at the same time I thought I might be able to share with him this amazing life tool . . . so I replied and outlined the 8+ guideline for him, and said, "Unfortunately dinner with you was not going to be an 8+, so I'm gracefully bowing out."
I think it goes without saying that he did not appreciate my efforts . . . but it makes for a great story. And that's what online dating is all about right? (Otherwise it just wouldn't be worth all the crazy. But that is a post for another day!)
If you think about your life by the numbers . . . are you choosing things that are above an 8? Are there areas of 8- that might need some pruning? The next time you're on the fence about attending an event, choosing new clothes, or considering a big life change . . . ask yourself: "Is it an 8 or above?" I think you'll find the results rather magical!
Love and Light,
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Pulling from the archives this week as I am in Mexico photographing a Life Coaching Retreat! See you back here * live * next Saturday! xo
At the end of the school year I was on my way across town to the high school baseball banquet. I had lost 15 pounds over the previous few months, was wearing some super cute jeans (that I hadn't been able to squeeze into for the last year and a 1/2), and was having a great hair day. I was at a stop light putting on some lip gloss when I had the following thought: "I feel like a MILLION BUCKS!" !!!! And the thought that came immediately after that was "If I can feel it? I can have it!" Not gonna lie, it was a pivotal moment - one that I think I'll remember for a long time!
So I keep on keeping on, hustling in the healthiest way I can, and have started paying closer attention to the things that make me feel good. From the food I eat, to how often I move my body, to the self-care rituals that I've been putting aside because I tell myself I'm on a budget. I've decided that there are some things I'm not willing to give up, because they hold a special place in my "million bucks" core desired feeling. And what this means is that I am going to treat myself to a few key things on a regular basis!
My list of small indulgences includes:
And bizarrely, I think when I got to that place of knowing what I could let go of (like washing my car all the time!), and what was really important to me (even if it seemed trivial), the universe threw a few super fun bonuses my way! I have a girlfriend who is an RN and studying to be an aesthetician - so I've been getting some awesome services from her at a lovely discount, and I couldn't be more pleased. (If you're in the Seattle area and are interested in new-age facials plus lots of other cool stuff . . . look her up here!)
What are the things that make you feel good? Or maybe even make you feel super fantastic? Do you allow yourself to indulge regularly or just time-to-time? I am a firm believer that when I feel good, I can manifest the life I've always dreamed of - one filled with freedom, joy, magic . . . and maybe even a million bucks!
Love and Light,
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