When I was in Maryland, my friend asked me at breakfast one morning about my "seemingly boundless energy". I was quick to correct him that I am human, and do have all kinds of limits in that department . . . but it got me thinking. While boundless energy is a bit of an exaggeration (or misconception?), it is true that I am a big fan of doing and finishing things.
The last month has been a blur. Hosting my first retreat in Mexico, coming home & getting caught up at work, a weekend trip to Baltimore, my birthday + Mother's Day, and getting my older son home from his 2nd (& last) year at school in Colorado . . . Phew! Last week I also got way out of my comfort zone and submitted an application for something that feels like a big deal to me. (More on that hopefully soon!).
And then I felt a big wave of "Now What?"
As a "do-er" it's been weird to have what feels like a bunch of free time on my hands after working so hard on some big projects which are now complete. Don't get me wrong, I'm still finishing up my podcasting class & setting up interviews for this summer so I can launch that in September, and I've got a few other unfinished things I need to wrap up. But overall, not getting up at 4:25 every morning so I can get an hour of my work in before I go to my other job, and then not having a list of things to do when I get home in the evening? It feels both free-ing, and aimless at the same time. Ha!
Because I know it probably won't last, I've decided to embrace this time as "The Space In Between".
In this space I am:
While it does seem a little bit abnormal at times, mostly it feels awesome. Like taking a big, intentional breath. Yes!
Have you had a similar experience of feeling a little bit lost when you suddenly have lots of extra time on your hands? What do you do when you finish a big project and then aren't sure what the "next indicated step" is? I'd love to know - send me a note or leave a comment below!
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In February my boyfriend I and I took a quick trip to Phoenix to see my older son play baseball. I was so excited to see him and had some expectations that he would be so excited to see ME, and deeply grateful that we made the trek. Ummmm . . . not so much. I mean, I think ultimately he was happy that we came and said so later, but jeez in the moment? He was the same kid he always is: a little bit entitled and not super grateful. And wow I was bent out of shape about it!
So I took my own advice ("Know Your Resources!"), and signed up for a one-day workshop with Dixie St. John who is a Master Certified Martha Beck Life Coach, and Master Certified Equus Coach (Horse Specialist) who specializes in boundaries.
The workshop was held near Baltimore on May 6th, and the weather the day of the workshop was highly questionable. Rain (which is fine), and Thunder/Lightning storms (which are not) were predicted. Not gonna lie, I had a bit of a moment given that I'd traveled all the way across the country for my horse encounter - and then I decided to just let it go because well . . . I have no control over Mother Nature! In the end, it rained for about ten minutes total, and we had a smaller group as a result of the weird forecast - which meant more time with the horses and a really great day!
Some of my experiences are hard to put into words, but here are a few things I learned (or re-learned in a new way!) that I'll carry with me for the rest of my life.
For starters we had a quick lesson on horse-y behavior so we'd know how to better read them.
When horses are comfortable with you and accept you as part of the "herd", they will move their mouth like they are chewing . . . effectively saying "I will eat grass with you". :) They'll also bow their heads down as a welcoming gesture. These signs are good to know because a) horses are big animals, and b) they are animals of prey - so if you're not "in" you're "out" - and that's not great.
And then we got right to work!
1. Horses won't always do what you want. Especially if they are hungry, and you aren't communicating clearly. (Wow there's a parallel to having teenage boys already!)
2. It's OK to ask for help, especially when you are learning something new.
3. There were several times when things didn't go exactly how I wanted them to, and I promptly gave up. But then I decided that I really, really wanted to accomplish a certain goal, and I made it happen. And when the situation changed mid-stream . . . I handled it like a boss. Which led me to really believing that . .
4. When I apply myself I can do whatever I want! I am in charge of my life, and how I choose to show up (in relationships, work, goals, etc.) - just like I did with the horses.
Also . . .
5. I was really proud of myself because I wasn't afraid! (<--- which weirdly I expected myself to be?) Amazing things happen when you move beyond fear. I'll just leave that right there.
Of course there was more, but overall I'd say it was absolutely worth the trip to the East Coast for the weekend and I am so glad I went! Have any of you had profound experiences working with horses? I'd LOVE to hear them! Leave a comment here or send me a note!
p.s. Big thanks to Ellen Weiser for the photos. As the photographer I don't always end up with any photos of ME - so I'm extra grateful for these!
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This weekend I'm having a little adventure on the East Coast - doing a workshop on Boundaries with the fabulous Dixie St. John near Baltimore. There will be horses involved, and it is my hope that I learn some new tools to help me show up in a new way in certain relationships. Specifically the one with my older child which has for years been more of a "friendship" than a "parent-child" relationship. In theory this is fine as your kids move into adulthood, but we're not there yet and I need to get some of my Mom MOJO back that seems to have lost its' way in the jet-stream of guilt that engulfed me post-divorce.
Is it crazy to hop on a cross-country flight just for the weekend? For one day in the ring with horses, with no guaranteed results? Ummmm if your definition of crazy is "not practical", with a touch of "financially irresponsible" then yes, yes it is.
However . . . I've done some other things in my life that definitely fall into that category that have been nothing short of life changing, which is what caused me to throw the voice-of-reason to the wind and just do it anyway!
Honestly? I've tried to make some behavior changes in this area for years - through therapy, reading books, and a solid "I can do this!" attitude . . . and it just hasn't produced the results (or sticking power!) that I want. Which is where I like to say "If it's not working - do something different!"
And that is how I landed on a plane to Baltimore, blogging at 10,000 feet.
What's funny is that this week I've had some other "crazy" whispers that have passed through . . . one that said I was going to have wood glasses (I did say crazy right?), and the other one that said I was going to pay of my debt in six months. (errrm that's crazy too y'all . . .) But here's the deal: I'm listening. Because not all of life's messages appear as a neon sign in the middle of the desert - sometimes you have to be actually paying attention to know what's coming next. Even if it seems crazy at the time.
Have you done anything that felt crazy in your life? Thinking about it now? I'd love to hear your stories . . . send me a note or leave a comment below!
P.S. If you've been thinking about making some life changes and perhaps (dare I say?) hiring a Life Coach . . . I'm offering a 47% off sale on all my coaching packages this Tuesday, May 8th!! Let's work together!
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