A while back I blogged about Doing More of What Makes You Happy - where I shared a list of things that make me happy! I'm a big proponent of the "Happy List" (I add to it regularly!) and got to thinking this week about something that's on there, which is "Watching movies with my boys." (And the context here is "at home", not in a theater . . .) It's still one of my favorite things to do - though as I mentioned before it only happens like once a year? Definitely not often enough!
Something you may or may not know about me is that I grew up without a TV. To this day my parents & my sister and her family do not own one. Our household does have a fancy wall-mounted flat-screen, but no cable - which feels more normal these days. We have a Roku box with Netflix + Amazon Prime Video . . . which given how infrequently we actually watch TV seems to be just right for our little family unit.
However, my boyfriend and I have been on the search for a good series to watch for a while now (having gone through White Collar, Lie To Me, and Limitless over the last couple of years), and I decided on Thursday that Scandal was going to be our choice. I read Shonda Rhimes' book "Year of Yes" earlier this year, and loved it so much. She is a creative force to be reckoned with (and totally hilarious), so I thought one of her productions would be worth a peek. Let's just say we watched three episodes in a row and we are hooked! There are seven seasons people . . . this is going to be super fabulous! Guilty Pleasures Galore!
This my friends, is what has caused me to pause this week. That phrase: Guilty Pleasure.
Why, why, whyyyy do we collectively associate things that are fun and make us feel good with guilt? For Pete's sake - there is enough guilt to go around in the world (and then some), there is just no reason to attach it to the things that might even equate to self-care.
I am no stranger to Guilt, and I think in this case mine might stem from a) being raised in a family where watching television was considered a bad way to spend your time (which I agree with like 90%), and b) that somehow that value-set is attached to the thought "I should be doing something else right now" - and that something else is usually cleaning the house, washing dishes or doing laundry. Bleh.
Here's the deal: I have five jobs, which is how I make a living right now. (Two of those are for other people, three of them are my own gigs.) Most days I totally love it. Other days I get home and I'm tired, and what I really want to do is hang with my sweetie and give my brain a little respite - time to escape to a world that is so totally un-relatable to my own that it's like a little mini-vacation. An hour when I don't have to think about what I'm going to wear to work tomorrow, if I even have clean clothes, and whether there is gas in my car. An hour of doing something FUN. A reward for the hustle (if you will.) There are few things like a good TV series to accomplish just that.
And that's just my situation. Let's say you work part-time, are writing a book and just like to watch TV? Or are a stay-at-home Mom and love Legal Dramas? Maybe it's not even TV . . . perhaps your fun thing is pumpkin-spice latte's when they show up at this time of a year? Whether it's once a week or every day - there is no guilt that needs to be associated with a warm beverage - regardless of whether you get it at Starbucks or your local coffee joint.
Do More of What Makes You Happy. And Don't Feel Bad About It.
What do you consider your "Guilty Pleasures"? Do you embrace them regularly? Or do you resist them because there is some sense that you shouldn't be doing them? How can you re-frame those thoughts and just go for it? Send me a note or leave a comment blow - I'd love to hear! And if you need some support to get to the other side of the guilt . . . you can schedule your complimentary discovery session here.
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