How you do one thing in life, is how you do everything. ~ Martha Beck
One of the tools I learned in Martha Beck's Life Coach Training program is called "The Living Home". The premise of the exercise is to have your client tell you about the least favorite place in their home, describing it in detail, and also WHY they don't like it. Because without fail, it will represent something else in their life that just isn't working! To take it one step further: Fix the house issue? Fix the life issue! :)
I love the concept of this exercise, but it's taken a while to master, so over the last six months I decided to practice it on myself. (Which can be complicated because working through my own stuff doesn't always feel good - why would I want to do that?? But I digress . . .)
The part of my house that makes me crazy (like all the time), is a storage area under my stairs - which I refer to lovingly as the "Harry Potter Closet". That closet and its' contents, along with the cluttered access path to the door is pretty much the bane of my existence. Which is why when I asked myself the Living Home question it was a no brainer answer. I immediately thought, "I hate that closet because I can never get to it. It's BLOCKED."
Oh. My. God. It's Blocked. I'm Blocked. Indeed.
So then I did nothing about it for several months. Ha!
Last weekend, my boyfriend was having a costume party at his place, so I bravely decided to unblock the way to the closet, and forage my way through everything in it to find my Pink Wig. <--- I've had the Pink Wig for years, but it's been MIA for the last two Halloween's so I've gone without a costume. But I really wanted to wear it, so I set the timer for 30 minutes (oh yes I did!), and got to work removing everything in the way of the closet door, and a lot of stuff inside it. I unearthed the wig in about 15 minutes, and then had to take a break before dealing with all the CRAP I'd shifted to get to it. At which point my boyfriend looked at me and said, "Don't put it back." Wait Whaaaaattt?
But I knew immediately that he had a point. It was time for phase two of the closet clean-out (which started - and stopped! - almost two years ago) - and there's no time like the present. Also see that bit about being BLOCKED above? Yah - I'm ready to push through whatever it is that's been keeping me stuck, and I think this is going to be a giant step in the right direction. I'm doing a little bit each day, and I'm already feeling lighter. Phew!
Do you have a place in your home that makes you cringe when you think about it? That guest room or office that has turned into a dumping ground for things you can't deal with "right now"? Perhaps it's your own version of the Zoboomafoo closet? I'd love to hear about those dark corners of your home that might be reflecting some dark corners of your life . . . And if you're interested in doing "The Living Home" coaching exercise together, just send me a note!
Love and Light,
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